It seems like there is no rest of the weary. And, the weary person is usually mom. Moms take care of hearth and home, but who takes care of her? If you are a busy mom (like me), learn to value yourself as a person and schedule personal time.
Personal time is a right of being a person. Each of us has the capacity to nurture others but that type of care takes its toll.
A car is filled with gas to make it run. Eventually, the gas runs out and your car won't move unless the car is replenished with fuel. The same goes for you. Emotional issues can develop when you don't take the time to take care of your emotional well-being, not to mention the physical results of emotional neglect.
“Mom time” refuels the tank so that you can give to your family as well as yourself in equal measure. Don't be ashamed to sit for fifteen minutes doing nothing. In the springtime, relaxing in a hammock under a tree is the perfect getaway from the pressures of the day. Reading a book for 30 minutes can also seem like heaven to many moms. Or even break out the Kindle and head to the beach.
Here are a few tips to help you fit in much-needed “mom time”:
1. Get up early if you have to.
When you have kids, the day begins at a hurried pace. Once you hit the ground running, there is no stopping you. Waking 30 minutes to an hour ahead of time means quiet solitude to drink your coffee or favorite beverage, read a book, meditate or listen to music.
2. Turn ordinary experiences into major events.
When you take a bath, add candles, a bubble bath, quiet music, and/or an inflatable bath pillow. Your regular bath has now become a spa-level experience. If you watch a movie, turn out the lights, pop a bag of microwave popcorn and curl up on the couch with your favorite throw blanket.
3. Ask your significant other for help.
Kids love their mothers but time spent with the other is important too. Let them bond with the other while you go shopping for a new outfit, shoes, or root around in the garden. Since the time is yours, do whatever you like.
4. Use the Boy Scout motto.
Always be prepared and you can spend more time in a relaxed mode. Fix lunches the night before. Put out clothes for the next day and place backpacks by the front door so kids can grab them on their way out. The fewer things you have to do throughout the day, the calmer you will be with your family and not experience burnout.
5. Take exercise breaks.
When you get a few minutes the last thing you want to do is exercise but getting a little physical activity in your day has far-reaching implications. Exercise helps you to think clearly and stretches the muscles. Also, stress will drain away as powerful endorphins are released into your system. Do jumping jacks during a television commercial or jog to the bus stop to pick up the kids.
6. Laugh at regular intervals.
Keep a funny calendar cube on your desk or subscribe to a daily joke site. Laughing releases stress and can lift your spirits significantly. It also keeps the abs tight.
Moms, take care of yourself. Your family would miss you if you were not around to love and care for them. You owe it to yourself and you deserve a break from the daily hustle and bustle.
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This is great! I know that when I wake up earlier than the kids my day runs so much more smoothly! And exercising really helps too. With a new baby I have been in survival mode, but definitely looking forward to when I can get back into my routine. I really like the Boy Scout motto suggestion. I’m not great at preparing the day ahead, but maybe I should start.
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Yeah i try, but some days especially during the Winter when it’s freezing outside, I don’t want to get out of my warm cozy bed 🙂
Missy Kierstead says
I wish I’d taken more time for myself when my girls were growing up. It’s super important for the health and well-being of mom to take care of herself. I believe it makes you a better mother when you take the time to nurture yourself, too, even if it’s little things each day.
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Oh i know what you mean! I always heard “sleep when baby sleeps”, very good advice.
All good points. I definitely agree with #1. Early in the morning before anyone rises is the best time to get some “me” time. Without distraction, you can enjoy that cup of tea/coffee at once w/o nuking it 10 times. 🙂