Did you know that love and respect don't mean the same thing?
I always thought they did, but after reading Mother & Son: The Respect Effect by Emerson Eggerichs, I've learned the difference.
This book is just what I needed since I have a problem communicating with my oldest, who has Asperger's. He rarely talks to anyone, everything out of his mouth is “I don't know” and “Nothing”. I'm sure you've heard it many times before.
Well this book reminds me that he needs to hear and see that I RESPECT him as much as he sees and hears that I LOVE him!
Just like I want him to respect his family, we need to respect him as a person, boy, man. So if you need to learn how to respect your son then I would definitely click on that link above and check this book out, and it's not just about treating him like you do everyone else in the family, it's much more than that.
The one thing that caught my attention in the book, was when Emerson talks about, everyone says that little girls need their dads for love and attention, no one says little boys need their moms for love and attention. You always hear daddy's little girl, but you rarely hear momma's boy.
I received a hardback book for the review which includes over 250 easy to read pages. There are 12 chapters, Appendix A-E, and a Bonus chapter. The chapters are:
Why This Book?
Understanding What Respect Looks Like to Boys
A Game Plan: Mom G.U.I.D.E.S. with Respect
Seeing the Man in the Boy: His Six Desires: C.H.A.I.R.S.
Conquest: Respecting His Desire to Work and Achieve
Hierarchy: Respecting His Desire to Provide, Protect, and Even Die
Authority: Respecting His Desire to Be Strong and to Lead and Make Decisions
Insight: Respecting His Desire to Analyze, Solve, and Counsel
Relationship: Respecting His Desire for a Shoulder-to-Shoulder Friendship
Sexuality: Respecting His Desire for Sexual Understanding and “Knowing”
An Empathetic Look at the Motherly Objections to Respecting a Boy
About the Book:
A new book from W Publishing Group/HarperCollins asks you to consider the all–important mother/son relationship in a new way: respect, as in the mother should respect the son.
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love and Respect – a landmark book that transformed millions of marital relationships – is launching his latest book, Mother & Son: The Respect Effect.
In Mother & Son, Dr. Eggerichs proposes that while showing love is important to a son, showing him respect is key to his heart, and what will transform the mother/son relationship. Of course, to a lot of people, that will sound backwards – shouldn’t it start with the son respecting the mother??
Since the importance of the mother/son relationship crosses all age/race/religion barriers, this is a topic applicable to all – regardless if they agree or disagree with Dr. Eggerichs’ method.